Ageing Gracefully: A Guide for Supporting Elderly Independence
As our loved ones grow older, it’s natural to worry about their ability to support themselves. They too may start to feel more vulnerable, and lean on family and friends for assistance.
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However, it’s important not to take over and start caring for seniors above their actual need level. Many older people want to retain their independence as much as possible, and doing so helps keep them physically and mentally well. Clearly, though, there has to be a consideration for safety and wellbeing.
So how can you help seniors be independent in a way that works for you all? Here are some ideas.
Let them take the lead
Firstly, it’s vital that any changes are discussed with the person before being implemented. You don’t want them to feel like you think they can’t take care of themselves, or feel like a burden to you. Relying on someone else for even small things is a hard change for many seniors.
Whether it’s a parent, friend or other family member, talk to them about the ideas you have for making life easier, and ask for their opinion. Explain that you’re suggesting these not because you think they’re incapable, but because you want them to live comfortably and safely. It may be necessary to tackle this subject over a longer period of time – it won’t always be just one conversation, so be prepared to be patient.
Modify their home
One of the best ways to keep seniors independent but also provide them with daily support is to modify their home. Grab rails, shower seats and changing outside steps for an access ramp can all make a huge difference, and can easily be removed in the future without causing any drop in value to the property.
Slightly more permanent changes include lowering or installing adjustable worktops so they can be used from a wheelchair, widening doorways, or installing a stair lift. A physiotherapist and/or occupational therapist will be able to advise on the best home accommodations, so reach out to these healthcare professionals for advice.
Make cooking easier
Cooking is something we all need to do at least once a day, but it can be quite a chore for seniors who may find it difficult and tiring to carry things to and from the fridge, or stand up for a long period of time to stir a pan. Oven trays can also be heavy and difficult to manage if the oven isn’t at eye level.
To tackle this, you could try to introduce your loved one to batch cooking, so that they don’t have to cook as many times in a week. Using appliances like an air fryer or slow cooker, which can be left on the countertop, can also be helpful in comparison to a big oven – both for ease of use and for reducing energy bills.
Depending on your circumstances and setup, you may also want to consider creating a rota of batch cooking between you and your family. If everyone took it in turns to cook a few extra portions, your loved one could have plenty of meals stored in the freezer for them to reheat.
Get in a routine of checking in
It can be worrying if you’re not sure if your elderly friend or family member can cope by themselves. So, why not get into a routine of calling them or texting to check in and see how their week is going? By having these regular touchpoints, you can feel more confident that they’re ok, and they can get into the habit of asking if there’s anything they need, rather than them feeling they have to ‘disturb’ you by calling.
Work together
Easing into the senior years can be tricky, but by working with your loved one rather than forcing them into changes, they can retain their independence and you can feel confident that they’re safe and happy.
Author bio: Lucy Monroe
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Lucy grew up spending the summers with her grandparents, and has a close relationship with them. Now in her 30s, she is navigating the transition to caring for them as they get older, and aims to share her learnings as she goes.
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